A caretaker by name only

A caretaker by name only

Abusers and Takers reveal their true identity when asked to take responsibility.

When you draw a line in the sand and ask them not to cross it, they push and cry and whine.
They say “Woe is me; I am the victim!”
They are envious, but not of the loss of lung or the cancer or the chemo, but of everything else you have worked for or earned.
That money, the stuff used to allow you survive, they believe a part of it is theirs.
They shouldn’t have to pay, they shouldn’t have to do, they can’t do this, they can’t do that.
They cry and fuss when they are expected to turn Adult into Adulting.

But what about the things they just bought? They need money to pay its taxes, they need money to pay their payments and insurance… what about their insurance?

It is not your fault that they bought a thing beyond their means. A thing with the intent to attract instead of to deliver. It is not your fault that they lost their job.
It’s not your fault that they have refused every opportunity put before them, the free education, tools, insurance, guaranteed employment.
Its not your fault that they volunteered to move in with you, to help you survive when you were terrified of what was to come.
Its not your fault when they did nothing to take care of you.
Its not your fault when you had to take care of yourself and this Taker who took what you had and lived like a child.

A child who said you would look stupid and ugly once your hair started falling out, who told you that you were weak, a child who was adamant about the things they believe you cannot do.

Abusers and Takers reveal their true identity when asked to take responsibility.
When that line is drawn in the sand and they see they can no longer force you with their will, they make you the monster.
They say “Woe is me; I am the victim!”
They say “How dare you expect me to help you, how dare you expect me to pay to play, to live, to eat.”

And so in the end they give you a gift, they give you the gift of freedom and peace.
Freedom from them and peace of mind.

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