Change is the way of life
At every step in our life we are faced with change. It’s an opportunity to become something else, to be transformed by the moment. I have experienced many opportunities to change in my cancer journey. I have done my best to accept these gifts as they are presented to me. When our world begins to transform we must temper it with wisdom, becoming something else is not enough, we must critically observe the transformation.
Ghost Tree (the art piece of the tree: see below) was inspired by the parts of our lives that die but remain even after we continue to live. Looking at it now I’m reminded of my mother, especially her journey through cancer and heart disease. She died of congestive heart failure and pancreatic cancer. Since my diagnosis there have been many moments when I wondered if she had carcinoid cancer.
My mother walked the road of cancer with grace. She made the most of her life. She lived her final moments by her terms. When she was put on hospice she chose to take control of her life and how she would walk into death. My mother was an inspiration, an incredibly loving and passionate woman.
In the last weeks of her life she arranged one final hurrah, a vacation for the entire family. Together we went on a cruise, it would be the last time we would be together as a happy, harmonious family.
The diagnosis of cancer is a catalyst for great change. It is through our wisdom that we decide whether this change is benevolent or malevolent. My mother showed me that no matter where the road leads us, we ultimately have the decision to decide how we leave. We decide how we will be remembered and how much love we can bring into the world.
A Good Life
As we move forward in life, parts of us die, while others continue to grow. When we lose people close to us it is important to remember how they lived, but it is also important to remember how they died.
The end of life is not the first death we’ve experienced. Change means something must stop so another may begin. These moments are smaller deaths to prepare us for the final one at the end of our road. If we gracefully accept the small changes in our life we will be ready for the final transformation at the end.
This post is about acceptance, love and growth. It is an exploration of life and those who have inspired us. Its a message that change can be good, the good comes from wisdom, temper it well and you will lead a good life.
I am beginning to discover that it is our dying parts that inspire others to live. To explore the magical nature of life and take the time to experience the experience. If you would like to walk back in time and read my thoughts from the past feel free to follow this link: