To fight abuse we have set effective personal boundaries. We have to draw a line in the sand and say “No, Stop, Do Not Cross!” We must have the power to stand up for ourselves without compromise. An effective personal boundary is one that you will enforce at all costs.
Boundaries should be proactive, not reactive. A proactive boundary is one you’ve researched through introspection. It is your responsibility to be aware of your lines. If you are unaware of your limits you will be ineffective when enforcing them. This ineffectiveness will help abusers violate you and create instances where your reaction causes you to abuse others.
Those who have been abused should be aware that they will forever be the target of abusers. Abusers share similarities with predators of the wild. They have the figurative ability to smell weakness, if you have been abused by someone it is almost guaranteed you will be abused by someone else. The best way to end the cycle is by developing the tools necessary to put an end to it. The only one who can do that is you.
Personal advocacy is the only way to end abuse. If you do not stand up for yourself no one else will either.
Abuse can find you whether you are healthy or sick, young or old, hurt or healed. If you are in a state of weakness you will be easy prey without effective personal boundaries.
I was being abused, neglected and exploited by Ino while I was going through chemotherapy. Once I set and enforced my boundaries I freed myself from the bondage of his abuse.
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