Shame is one of the seven negative roots of the Tree of Life. It is often confused with guilt because the two intertwine. This root is ferocious and nasty, it is more than long strips of wooden fiber, it is a tentacle covered with gnawing mouths filled with diseased teeth. This tentacle slithers through the soil to the base of our tree, chewing and chomping at our body of life. Slowly it nibbles and tears us apart, leaving infected wounds that rot us from the inside out.
When we feed this negative root, it grinds us into mean strings of ground meat. Shame tells us to avoid asking for help, it kidnaps our quality of life and destroys our dreams. Shame says: “Men don’t cry. Suck it up.”
Everyone feels shame. We are more than cartoons, characters and stereotypes. Live your life by your terms, not by the will of others. The only acceptance and approval you need is from yourself.
There is the argument shame has a value in society, claiming it is used to maintain law and order. However, the negative promotes the negative, if we want the world to be a better place we must promote accountability in others. Reward the good and rehabilitate those who do bad.